You have undertaken preliminary talks about the divorce but in your heart of hearts, this is not what you want to happen and you want to stop divorce. Now you can employ your power of persuasion to good use and dissuade your partner from further pursuing it. Legally, the process can be discontinued at any point - from the time the divorce was filed until the signing of the final documents. The faster you act to stop it, the better chances you will have for the procedure to be discontinued.

You have to present your arguments to your partner on why you should stop divorce with dignity and confidence. Then your partner will get the impression that you could be right and might very well have a point. If you present yourself as being so in despair and weepy, I totally doubt if your partner would even like to hear half of your story.

You have to learn to control your emotions and be able to behave maturely and pleasantly. This might catch your partner off guard and at once agree to stop the divorce. Crying, screaming, and delivering a litany of your hurts or promises will not help in any way. Simply say that you are saddened with the turn of events, and you would like to have another chance. It might surprise even you if your partner suddenly said, “Okay, let’s give it another try.”

You can also show your matured part (a part which he/she has not seen before) by suggesting seeing a marriage or couples counselor to stop divorce. Counseling has helped millions of couples restore their relationship and it could for you too. If your partner will agree to counseling, then you might be able to deal with your problems, thus making divorce redundant at this time.

At counseling, let the person with whom she/he originally fell in love with out so she will remember why he/she married you. Most importantly, if your partner sees that you sincerely want to work on dealing with the problems that will surface through counseling - and possibly, a lot will - that could be sufficient for your partner to stop the process completely.

If you finally were able to convince your partner to stop divorce, do not revert to the old you as it would be easy to re-file it afterward. Once the seed has been planted in your partner’s mind or perhaps already he/she was well into the process already before it was stopped, then the decision to go through it again will be much easier. If you love your partner and want the relationship to flourish you should always be attentive of the telltale signs of problems to prevent it from escalating. If you feel there is a need to remain in counseling, then you must do so.