It is not easy to get over a guy, especially if you really loved him. Regardless of the circumstances of the breakup, it could never be painless and easy. The separation creates a vacuum in your heart and in your life which is not easy to contend with immediately. It is a fact though that over time, people survive breakups. Let me help you with the following five steps on how to get over guy.

The first and most important step is you to let the pain out. Cry and talk about it until you naturally wear yourself out. Other people write about the entire experience because it helps release the pain. One method other people do is they write their ex a long, long letter talking about the happy and sad times. It details all the happiness and the hurt. Just write away. When you feel you have said everything you wanted to say, mail it? No way. You have to burn it. With the flames and the smoke goes everything that was written in there. Tabula rasa, you can now start with a clean slate.

After that, accept that this relationship has come to an end. If you do not put closure on this, you will forever be hoping that he is going to come back and spend all your precious days waiting for a day that will never come. Your activities should coincide with the objective to put a closure on the relationship. Get rid of all his belongings, clothes, toothbrush, etc. Return all of his personal properties and gifts to him. This also symbolizes your clearing your life of him.

During this time, you might have to look towards your friends and family for companionship and support. Boyfriends may come and go, unless you eventually marry them, but family and best friends are for life. Reconnecting with them is good for your emotion and social life. Some of your girlfriends might have undergone the same experience and survived; you can learn from the wisdom that they gained from that experience.

You will now surely have some free time since a lot of time was spent with your ex. Spend this time effectively to forget your ex. You can spend it on improving yourself physically, mentally or spiritually so instead of feeling less you will actually become more. Joining associations or classes will not be a bad endeavor. You will enhance your knowledge and make a new set of friends.

Last but not the least if you really want to be emotionally and mentally free of your ex, do not get stuck in a rut. As they say, move on. The company of your old and new friends plus your new activities will fill up the void left by your ex and come out to be a better person.

Set your eyes on the horizon, do not look back.