Are you hoping to get your ex girlfriend back? In majority of breakups, it is the women who initiate it. You can say that by experience, women are impetuous and do things which they regret moments after. After a hasty and emotional breakup, it is not impossible that she would want to foster reconciliation but might be too discomfited because of the previous scene she made. If you want her back, then perhaps it will be up to you to woo her back, otherwise, the relationship will be at a standoff.

You can use two methods in trying to win her back. First you have to convince her that you are attractive to others. Secondly, impress upon her that you have not closed your door on her and would be happy to have her back.

The real reason for the breakup should be acknowledged and addressed. Let us take Scott and Rachel’s situation. When they were just new in the relationship, knowing Rachel’s passion for arts he always took her to plays and concerts. After a while, their activities and dates took more on the sports’ side which was Scott’s real interest. When Rachel broke off with him, he realized that they have never been to an arts event for almost four months.

Scott then had to accept that to be able to win back Rachel, he should compromise to divide their activities between their interests. Scott backed off for a while to give Rachel some time alone. Two weeks after the breakup, he called her and offhand mentioned that he had come by two tickets for the symphony and if she would be interested to go.

Naturally, Rachel was only too happy to accept as she still loves Scott and he seems to be trying to see her point of view. After the concert, they had dinner at a fantastic restaurant and Scott ordered the most excellent wine on the menu. Rachel was just awed by the “changed” Scott and she was ready to restart their relationship.

Now, it was up to Scott to set the terms of their renewed relationship. He had the advantage to outline how the relationship will go. He let Rachel know that the evening was wonderful and hoped there will more to come. But he also let her realize that he is still into sports and if ever they reconcile, she will also be open to learn more about basic sports jargon. Her good mood made her willingly acquiesce. So compromises have been set and both concerns are now addressed and everyone is content.

Take note that Rachel called the breakup because of Scott’s seemingly insensitiveness to her wants, although she did not really want it to end. It was good that Scott had the good sense and timing to set things right and define a new set of agreements to make the relationship work this time.

Was Scott just lucky to get your ex girlfriend back? It is not entirely luck, but because he placed a lot of work and understanding to it as well.